Mini-Ep 453: Party On
Elise shares the tales of her college-themed keg party and Doree has a minor panic when she can’t smell any of her (unscented) beauty products. They also hear from listeners about their microjoys, how to talk to kids about death, and all the spa chatter.
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Transcript
This episode transcript is AI generated.
Doree (00:10):
Hello and welcome to Forever 35, a podcast about the things we do to take care of ourselves. I'm Doree Shafrir.
Elise (00:17):
And I'm Elise Hu. And we're just two friends who like to talk a lot about serums,
Doree (00:21):
And this is a mini episode where we hear from you, we share your comments and your thoughts, and we answer your questions to the best of our ability. But please remember, we are not experts. We're podcast hosts and we always encourage you to seek support first and foremost from a medical and or mental health professional as needed.
Elise (00:40):
Yeah. And before we get to all your mailbag questions, we usually catch up for a few minutes. So we do fill me in. Dorie, what's
Doree (00:50):
Happening? What is happening?
Elise (00:53):
You were hosting your big play date this past weekend, right? Did I remember correctly?
Doree (00:58):
We didn't end up doing it. We're going to do it I think in a few weeks.
Elise (01:03):
I keep waiting for this.
Doree (01:05):
I know, I know, I know. But Henry did have a birthday party at the beach. He went to a birthday party at the beach. He didn't have his own birthday party at the beach, and he boogie boarded for the first time. Oh, how fun. And he is obsessed. It's the best obsessed, it's the best. Obsessed with boogie boarding. He was so into it. He didn't want to even stop and eat some pizza. He was just like, I got to keep going.
Elise (01:40):
That's great. Boogie boarding's the best. And if you feel like you're in the market for a boogie board, you know where there are many boogie boards available is next door.
Doree (01:51):
Oh, that's a hot tip. Well, maybe on your side of town. I feel like I don't see that many over here, but if you see them, let me know.
Elise (02:00):
I mean, I'm sure they have them at Costco too, but
Doree (02:03):
I was at Costco today and there were no boogie boards, but again, I went to the Costco far from the beach, so maybe I need to go to the Costco, closer to the beach where they
Elise (02:15):
Would have, it's also later in the season, they tend to have a bunch of boogie boards around the same time. They have a bunch of plants for the spring, but if I spot one, I will let you know.
Doree (02:25):
If you see one that looks like it would be the appropriate size for my child, feel free to pick it up.
Elise (02:31):
Okay, will do. I
Doree (02:33):
Would be grateful. What's going on with you?
Elise (02:36):
Well, while we're on the topic of Costco, Costco is selling these giant Costco branded buckets, which I was so delighted to discover because first of all, I mean who doesn't need an extra bucket for cleaning or painting or for whatever reason, we love a bucket. These buckets say Costco in the big Costco logo.
Doree (02:58):
Great.
Elise (02:58):
I know we have a divided listenership. I know some of you are Sam's Club people and some of you just hate Costco. I am partnered with somebody who hates Costco. He walks in it and he doesn't even like the smell of it. He's just like, it smells like Costco and he has to get out of there. But Rob very lovingly accompanied me to Costco, one of my favorite places on earth, because we were having my big kegger and the theme of the party was old school. And so we did all of the college things. I made a little TikTok about it, so if you follow me on TikTok, you can see some of the images and I needed to make jungle juice or trash juice or all the different things that punch was called,
(03:44):
But I didn't want to make it in a bathtub, which is where we used to make it before parties. When we were pre-gaming for big parties, I didn't think anybody was going to drink it and I would've been right. And luckily while we were at said Costco looking for some sort of trash can or something to make this hooch in, Rob spotted these Costco buckets. So I'm now the proud owner of a giant plastic Costco bucket in which I put a bunch of booze and Hawaiian punch and a little lemonade and a full bag of ice. Nice. And made some hooch, which gave me a pretty bad hangover the next day. And I'm sure I'm not the only one, but it ended up being a really good time, very good times. We also made lovingly jello shots, which I couldn't remember how to make. And my little shot glasses, my little plastic shot containers were too fancy.
(04:47):
And so it actually, I'm learning a lot now 20 years out of college, and if you're going to make jello shots, you actually need a kind of thin plastic because it needs to be able to squeeze. You need to be able to squeeze it to get the jello out of it. But if it's too well-made and the plastic is thick and you're having to separate and then the jello doesn't come out completely, it might be wasted. So that's a note for next time. We also got a keg, which my friend Elsa, who had never tapped a keg before, didn't know how to use part of the tap broke. Okay. Yes. Or the tap broke into the ice. She was like, all I did was study in college. I don't know this. So we had a keg incident where it was leaking out of the tap because
Doree (05:41):
Oh no.
Elise (05:42):
Some of us didn't remember how to use the tap for a keg group or for a keg, but then that got fixed because my friend Nate, who grew up in Montana and has probably been hitting the keg since very underaged, he was like, oh, I got this, I got this. And he fixed it and it was really a great time. Everybody wore their college gear or whatever they wore in college. So my friend Matt was wearing a fish t-shirt and a super baggy jeans and a backwards baseball cap. And then my friend Meredith, who played volleyball in college, had her volleyball gear at her actual Penn volleyball gear, and a friend of mine had her sorority cup from 1996. I cannot believe it survived that long.
Doree (06:31):
Wow.
Elise (06:31):
It was a really good thing. That's
Doree (06:33):
Impressive.
Elise (06:33):
Yes, yes. It was a very good theme. Good times had by all and no incidents. We didn't have any situations where anyone passed out or the cops came that was also a hallmark of a college party. Luckily, none of the neighbors called the cops on us. There were no noise ordinance issues, no minor in possession of alcohol, nothing like that because the Hugh family has certainly been through those, not me personally, really more Roger Hugh. I'm going to pin this on my younger brother. Every year when the whole family gets together, we're like, what are all the times RA got in trouble? So that's always a good time. Oh my gosh. Anyway, yeah, you can check out some of the video from that on my TikTok, but yeah, that was super fun. We missed you. Dory was a little under the weather, but we would've loved having you.
Doree (07:30):
I had a stuffy nose and I fully convinced myself that I had,
Elise (07:37):
Oh no.
Doree (07:39):
I was like, wait, have I lost my sense of smell? Oh no. I was like, none of my, this is so me. I was putting my skincare on. It's like I can't smell anything. And then I was like, wait, all of my products are unscented.
Elise (07:58):
You're not supposed to smell
Doree (08:00):
Anything. Exactly. And so then I opened up this product that got sent to me recently that I knew had a scent, like an overpowering scent that I was like, Ooh, I don't think I can use this. And I could smell it. And I was like, oh, thank God. But you just get, I fully started spiraling that I had COVID and I wasn't going to able to go to sectionals, and I just was totally in my head about all of it and I was like, I can't go to this party. So I was sorry to miss it.
Elise (08:34):
Your college, your alma mater was very well represented. I was surprised at how well represented it was, but that's because Rob's friends showed up and Rob went to Penn, and so
Doree (08:46):
Yes,
Elise (08:47):
Lots of those guys were there. And UCLA very well represented. One of my UCLA professor friends actually purposely wore some gear from a university in Norway or something just because he knew that UCLA would be overrepresented. Stanford, surprisingly well represented. So my whole approach on parties is like everybody's invited and just standing invitation. There are times where I can't get organized and I don't individually text everybody, but everybody is always invited. So the dog walker came the guy who takes the dog on long hikes.
Doree (09:26):
Oh yes.
Elise (09:27):
Yeah. He came and he was like, where's Oscar? Where's that bad
Doree (09:32):
Boy? Where's that good bad boy?
Elise (09:34):
And I said, obviously he couldn't be around because there was too much food. But also he had just recently been hospitalized again for the third time, so he was awesome. Hotel
Doree (09:50):
Elise, before we take a break, we got a couple of voicemails about micro joys that I wanted to play. Yay. Okay, great.
Listener Voicemail (09:57):
Hey, Elise and Dory. I'm calling from Santa Cruz to share a micro joy that I have recently been using stretch me through the days. I'm a mom of a five-year-old and a 7-year-old, so my life is pretty hectic. And I work a full-time job in government, which is also very hectic. And one thing that I have really enjoyed doing in the mornings is put on spa music and then I just pretend I'm at the spot. It's so nice to just go through a few minutes or even an hour of just work at home with just calm low vibration spa music in the background. Sometimes I listen to piano music, sometimes I listen to the gentle voices. But it's just a nice way to make your brain and body relax a little bit when you're living through a very hectic world, which we're all currently living in. Thank you so much. Nice.
Elise (10:56):
So simple. It's so simple and it can really calm your nervous system.
Doree (11:01):
I love anything that's like, it's like a spa in my house. I'm like, sign me up. Okay, next Micro joy.
Listener Voicemail (11:11):
Hi Dory and Elise, I just wanted to call and share a couple quick micro joy that I have. One is a surprise Micro joy, which is when your podcast, not your podcast, but any podcast goes to take an ad break and oopsies, there's no ads. What a micro joy. Another micro joy I've been enjoying lately is going back and listening to the oldest Trevor 35 episodes from because I through all your current ones so quickly and back in time to a point where before story you had Henry and honestly before the pandemic kind of ruined everyone's wellbeing. So anyway, thanks guys.
Doree (12:07):
So two things about this micro joy. One is it may be a micro joy for you when podcasts do not have ads, but it is not a micro joy for podcasters. However, if you do not like ads, there's a very simple solution on this podcast, which is to join our Patreon, which has an ad free tier at $10. And then the other great thing about that as this listener was talking about, there's more episodes to listen to. You get the whole that catalog of our Patreon episodes. If you join our Patreon, you get two years worth of casual chats. You get pop culture episodes. Kate and I used to do this series called Product Recall. Those are on the older Patreon episode. So there's a lot of content on there. So I would suggest checking it out. And you can be against ads on podcasts, I get it. But it is how podcasters keep the podcast going. So if you are not an ads person, just subscribe to our Patreon.
Elise (13:09):
The other thing that's really great about the Patreon casual chats now that we're on this topic is that it's kind of the more unfiltered. It's not only ad free, it's kind of filter free because we're just chatting casually. We talk a little bit more honestly and openly about a lot of the things that might not come up on the main shows. So if you are our Parasocial friends or our real friends in real life, catch up with the casual chat, it's great com slash forever three five.
Doree (13:41):
Alright, before we take a break, just want to remind everyone, our voicemail is 5 9 1 0 3 9 0 and you can email us at Forever 35 podcast@gmail.com. You can visit our website forever 35 podcast.com. We have links there to everything we mentioned on the show. We're on Instagram at Forever 35 podcast. Our newsletter is at forever 35 podcast.com/newsletter. And you can shop our favorite products at shop my us slash forever five. And after the break we have a kind of serious question about how to talk to kids about death, but then also some stuff about chargers. So we continue multitudes. Alright, we'll be right back. Alright, we are back and we are going to kick things off with this other somber, but I think important question. So here we go.
Listener Voicemail (14:40):
Hi Dorian Elise, I was just listening to the podcast and you were talking about your trip to the funeral and how didn't go, which I'm so about your sister-in-law by the way. I was just curious. I also have a soon to be 4-year-old and I was just curious if Henry had any questions about his aunt and how you're dealing with that at all. I'd be curious to hear about talking to children about what comes after death or I'm a little intimidated by it as I'm sure a lot of parents are. But yeah, I was just curious your thought. Thanks.
Doree (15:25):
Well, thank you for saying that about my sister-in-law. Henry did have some questions, but actually not as many questions as I thought he might have. I said most of the time when we get sick we go to the doctor and the doctor's able to help us get better, but sometimes very rarely people aren't able to get better and that is what happened to on Allison. She had a sickness and she couldn't get better from it and he was kind of like, but she didn't look sick because we hadn't really talked to him about the fact that she was sick because that just seemed like a lot for him to process. And he was so little when she first got diagnosed that it was like, I'm not going to tell a three-year-old. You know what I mean? And so we had just never really talked about it and he was like, but she didn't look sick. And I was like, yeah, sometimes sickness is on the insides of our bodies and you don't always see it on the outside. That's good. Your dad and I might be kind of sad for the next few days or that might be something that you see. And it was just kind of like, okay. Then he's mentioned it again at random times. He said, oh well mama, you can delete her text messages now because she's dead. And I was like,
(16:55):
Okay, this is how he's processing it. So yeah, I would say don't, obviously you're not going to lie, but I tried to sort of explain things on a level that he would understand without over explaining and kind of following his lead about what he was curious about. So that's what I would do with a 4-year-old. I don't know. Elise, do you have anything you want to add?
Elise (17:26):
It totally depends on the age, right? Age appropriateness is key and with a 4-year-old there's the practical aspect and the emotional aspect, the practical aspect being that death. What happens when somebody dies or an animal dies is that all of our organs that are usually working stop working. And so there's the practical aspect, then there's the emotional aspect, which it sounds like you talked about. There's a great board book about this. There's actually a great board book series that I'm now working for called A Kids Co and I'll be hosting a podcast for them that's coming out later this fall. And the whole premise of this company and it's line of books is that kids are ready, kids are ready to talk about some thornier topics like death. And so there's actually a board book for about five-year-olds called a kid's book about death. And I would recommend you, if this is something that your child is getting curious about, I absolutely recommend this book and just a whole series of books that comes out from a kid co. It's fantastic. And they also put out a newsletter and things. This is not like a plug. This kind of came up organically from your question, but it occurred to me that there are some great resources in this area. Thanks for the question.
Doree (18:47):
Alright, next we got a text about a couple of things that we've been talking about lately. Here we go. One yes to the Arizona resort culture. This came up because if my team wins the tennis tournament this weekend, we get to go to nationals which are in Arizona. So Elise was talking about the joys of Scottsdale, Arizona.
Listener Voicemail (19:13):
Yes,
Doree (19:14):
I'm in Tucson and we also have several great resorts. Weekend staycations are easy here and we can get great rates in the summer when tourism is low. Two, I'm 42. And also see the increase in obsessive diet culture coupled with the return of the diet pill. But now they seem to be marketed as perimenopause supplements to flush the weight gain.
Elise (19:38):
Oh gosh.
Doree (19:39):
Social media tells me that calling it a diet is apparently old fashioned and the new term is a calorie deficit. What a weird rebrand.
Elise (19:47):
Yeah, it's just rebranding A lot of these haunting behaviors Totally. Many of us have had to live through. So
Doree (19:58):
Yeah,
Elise (19:58):
Watch out for these Rebrands. Stay alert, stay alert,
Doree (20:03):
Stay vigilant. Alright, one more voicemail in this segment. I do really hope we make nationals not just because I want to make nationals, but because I want to go to Scottsdale and enjoy this spa culture. Here we go. Hey
Listener Voicemail (20:22):
Dory and Elise, it's your o pal. Krista called in a few times, dish towels, wildfires, things like that. I just wanted to call in about the charger dilemma in Elise's host. I feel you. And I also think that the previous listener who gave the recommendation about the location specific chargers, it's right on. That's awesome. I'm going to take it a little bit further. I have a teenage daughter and Elise you mentioned labels. Great idea. So you can, I started with this as well, but the charger nonetheless continue to disappear. So then I wrote, do not remove and labeled the charger. And that was mildly effective for a little bit of time, but a loss, it continued to disappear from different locations, chargers. And so then I wrote, if you remove this charger from this location, you will lose your phone for 24 hours. And that has been very effective. Only had to enforce it once Chargers stay where they belong. So I just thought maybe at least you would enjoy that. I know you have teenagers as well. My daughter's lovely. They can sometimes be a bit self-centered, so hope that helps friends and I've always loved the pod.
Elise (21:49):
That's great. That's great. I relish the opportunity to take away her phone. I love it. It gives me a power trip. I love the power trip of it. I get drunk with power. I'm like, I got you now you lose your phone. But I'm partially joking, but that is a good idea. It's quite a deterrent. Quite a deterrent.
Doree (22:11):
Okay, I thought this funny. Thanks for funny. Alright, we are going to take another short break. Hopefully there will be some ads and we'll be back with our sake. Yeah, for our sake we'll be back with some Korean spa recommendations per a listener request. So we'll be right back.
Elise (22:30):
We'll be right back.
Doree (22:37):
Okay, we are back and we got a text from someone who wrote in recently asking for recommendations about what to do in LA for a couple of days. And Elise, I feel like you and I gave this listener many more recommendations than they could ever way too much possibly do in two or three days, but they are actually asking for more recommendations. They said, Hey, thanks so much for the La Rex. We are so excited to explore quick follow up since we will definitely be exploring is there a Korean spa that you recommend? Thanks again. Love y'all in the pod.
Elise (23:12):
Yeah. Dory, you just had a girlfriend in town and y'all did a Korean spa day, right? Where did y'all go and did you like it?
Doree (23:19):
So we went to We Spa,
Elise (23:22):
Which
Doree (23:22):
Is a nice, it's a good one to go to if you are a mixed gender group. We were not, but it's open to men and women and some of the Korean spas are women only. We spa is great. It has a bunch of saunas and salt rooms and jade saunas and then there's single sex areas too that are nude, that have great pools and you can get services. I love the scrub there. There's also food there. The food's pretty good.
Elise (24:02):
Love the cafe. There
Doree (24:04):
Is a rooftop deck where people just kind of hang out. It's great. I think we spa is great. That's where I would recommend. Do you have any suggestions?
Elise (24:14):
We Spa is so accessible for all ages too. They have
Doree (24:18):
Kids' room. Yes, there's often kids there.
Elise (24:20):
You can also do a nice long layover in LA without spending the night in a hotel. If you want to just go straight to Wipa and spend your five to six hour layover at the Korean spa, WIPA is available for that. There's a lot of Korean businessmen who do that.
Doree (24:37):
It's open 24 hours too and you can get an overnight pass and literally just stay there for the night. People sleep on the mat.
Elise (24:48):
Yeah, you use it as an airport lounge, which makes sense because you're also getting a spot treatment at the same time and getting to relax. So we spot great, very accessible. If you want to actually see we spa Conan O'Brien and Steven Yun who was on the Walking Dead at the time, but now has gone on to glow up in many other places. Conan O'Brien and Steven y did a series of We Spa segments together and they are hilarious and delightful and so much fun and hopefully we can link you to those are shot at We Spa. The other one that I really like is called Spa la and you can find it on Yelp, you can find it online. Part of the reason I really like Spa LA is because it is in a shopping center where if you don't want to actually eat at the spa after you're done with your spa services, there's a great Shabu Shabu hot pot place. And I love Hot Pot. That's one of my favorite kinds of cuisine. And it's called Bone Shabu. And Bone Shabu is right near Spa la, so you could kind of get a twofer out of it. So there's a few K-Town spa suggestions for you.
Doree (25:53):
Amazing. Okay, next we got a text about Costco, but Costco in Canada
Elise (26:03):
Bringing this full circle though we started with Costco and it's buckets and we're returning to Costco. This is such, and I at Costco Serendipity,
Doree (26:11):
I was at Costco today and actually did buy some dog food there because I am sick of paying so much money for B'S food. I was like, oh, this looks good. Anyway. Okay. Hi Elise and Dorie. I was at Costco in Vancouver, Canada yesterday and saw these amazing Costco food court themed dog toys. Thought you'd both get a kick out of these two. I have got a look. Seen these. Well,
Elise (26:39):
I go to Costco just to eat lunch, so I love that food court. My dollar 50 hot dog meal, hot dog and 20 ounce drink meal. Oh look, they actually have, I know the hot dog and a 20 ounce drink and the pizza.
Doree (26:54):
Do you think they're available in the US or just in Canada?
Elise (26:58):
I don't know, but I can get it delivered. It looks like you can buy it for 33 99. It's a Costco exclusive. There's five dog toys and one customizable Costco dog name tag. Wow, that's so cute. That's great.
Doree (27:14):
Oh, they do have it on the US site. And guess what? It's only 26 99.
Elise (27:20):
I love it. I'm going to get this for, this is very
Doree (27:21):
Cute. I'm sold. I'm sold. Thank you. Okay, and the last thing I want to bring up is that I have a Trader Joe's rack of a new product that I have been enjoying.
Elise (27:34):
Okay.
Doree (27:34):
And it is the Korean che fried rice
Elise (27:39):
Che is a noodle. So they made the chop jay into a fried rice, correct?
Doree (27:43):
It's noodles and rice.
Elise (27:47):
It's so good. This is like when you go to Panda Express and they're like, do you want rice or do you want chow meine? And you get to say both. So you have two bases. You have two carb bases.
Doree (27:59):
Exactly. But the noodles are cut up so they're smaller and there's a lot of veggies. I put an egg in it. It's really good. Great. That is my Trader Joe's rec for the week.
Elise (28:15):
Thank you. Thank you. I'm really thrilled. I have so much more spare time this week because the kids are at sleepaway camp, which we can talk about for next Monday's episode. But what am I going to do with myself this week? I have so many free hours in the day. Totally. Probably get up to no good. That's what I'm going to do, but we'll see.
Doree (28:36):
Okay. Well Elise, it's been a pleasure. Thanks everyone for listening and we'll talk to you soon.
Elise (28:42):
Talk to you next time. Bye.